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7 Principles of Relationship

Relationship forms a great part of our life and the most important relationship we have as Christians are the one with God. Do you have a relationship with God?

The following are the seven principles of relationships from a sermon by Rev. Robb Thomson, which I find very important:

1. The outcome of your life is completely dependant upon the types of relationship you pursue.

20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed.
Proverbs 13:20 (NKJV)

33 Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.”
1 Corinthians 15:33 (NKJV)

You are affected by the company you keep; bad company often leads to destruction.

2. I would rather have you hate me for telling you the truth than for you to love me for telling you lie.

5 Open rebuke is better, Than love carefully concealed.
6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful
Proverbs 27:5-6(NKJV)

41 You do the deeds of your father.”
Then they said to Him, “We were not born of fornication; we have one Father—God.”
42 Jesus said to them, “If God were your Father, you would love Me, for I proceeded forth and came from God; nor have I come of Myself, but He sent Me. 43 Why do you not understand My speech? Because you are not able to listen to My word. 44 You are of your father the devil, and the desires of your father you want to do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it. 45 But because I tell the truth, you do not believe Me.
John 8:41-45(NKJV)

Prove of love is the willingness to confront!
Only a true friend will tell you the truth, at the risk of you friendship.

3. If the person does not receive you words, they do not qualify for your time.

14 And whoever will not receive you nor hear your words, when you depart from that house or city, shake off the dust from your feet.
Matthew 10:14 (NKJV)

60 Therefore many of His disciples, when they heard this, said, “This is a hard saying; who can understand it?”
61 When Jesus knew in Himself that His disciples complained about this, He said to them, “Does this offend you? 62 What then if you should see the Son of Man ascend where He was before? 63 It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life. 64 But there are some of you who do not believe.” For Jesus knew from the beginning who they were who did not believe, and who would betray Him. 65 And He said, “Therefore I have said to you that no one can come to Me unless it has been granted to him by My Father.”
66 From that time many of His disciples went back and walked with Him no more. 67 Then Jesus said to the twelve, “Do you also want to go away?”
John 6:60-67 (NKJV)

If good influence evil, why God didn’t change satan? It is because; he refuses to receive God’s word.

The more time you give to people who don’t receive your word, the less time you have to fulfill God’s work.

1 second of your time is worth more than anything on this earth, use it wisely. Don’t waste on people who do not deserve it.

4. If any relationship does not give birth to change, then any further association is unnecessary.

17 As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.
Proverb 27:17 (NKJV)

1 Blessed is the man
Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,
Nor stands in the path of sinners,
Nor sits in the seat of the scornful;
Psalm 1:1 (NKJV)

A good relationship is one that helps each other to constantly improving. Strive to help each other to reach higher level in life.

5. Never allow the invitation to intimacy to be destroyed by the contempt of familiarity.

9 Queen Vashti also made a feast for the women in the royal palace which belonged to King Ahasuerus.
10 On the seventh day, when the heart of the king was merry with wine, he commanded Mehuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, Abagtha, Zethar, and Carcas, seven eunuchs who served in the presence of King Ahasuerus, 11 to bring Queen Vashti before the king, wearing her royal crown, in order to show her beauty to the people and the officials, for she was beautiful to behold. 12 But Queen Vashti refused to come at the king’s command brought by his eunuchs; therefore the king was furious, and his anger burned within him.
Esther 1:9-12 (NKJV)

15 Now when the turn came for Esther the daughter of Abihail the uncle of Mordecai, who had taken her as his daughter, to go in to the king, she requested nothing but what Hegai the king’s eunuch, the custodian of the women, advised. And Esther obtained favor in the sight of all who saw her. 16 So Esther was taken to King Ahasuerus, into his royal palace, in the tenth month, which is the month of Tebeth, in the seventh year of his reign. 17 The king loved Esther more than all the other women, and she obtained grace and favor in his sight more than all the virgins; so he set the royal crown upon her head and made her queen instead of Vashti.
Esther 2:15-17 (NKJV)

Don’t give up your principle, always respect people/relationship.

6. The productivity of any relationship is completely dependent on the standard it upholds.

14 You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.
John 15:14 (NKJV)

79 Let those who fear You turn to me,
Those who know Your testimonies.
Psalm 119:79 (NKJV)

People either make you better or make you bitter.

My friend must be:

1. Committed to a long term relationship.


2. Empires in their brain.


3. Be sower.


4. Qualify to receive my seed.


5. Prize integrity above relationship, love God more than me.


6. Willing to confront my enemies.

There are always 3 side to a story, your side, my side and God’s side, make sure it is the God’s side we follow.

7. Poverty is not the lack of money; poverty is the proof of misguided money.

24 There is one who scatters, yet increases more;
And there is one who withholds more than is right,
But it leads to poverty.
25 The generous soul will be made rich,
And he who waters will also be watered himself.
Proverbs 1124-25(NKJV)

25 “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing?
Matthew 6:25(NKJV)

Money is not the root of all evil, the love of money is!

What you want from heaven? What are you looking for?

A seed is not what you sow, is how much it cost you to sow.

posted by 诸葛天于 @ 8:57 AM